We all have habits, some good and some not so good, we can’t deny that fact but these are behaviours that we’ve learned and that occur almost automatically. And most of us have a habit we’d like to break, or one we’d like to develop, true or false?
For most people, it takes about four weeks for a new behaviour to become routine or habit. The following steps can make it easier to establish a new behaviour pattern.
1. The first step is to set your goal. Especially when you are trying to stop or break a habit, you should try to phrase your goal as a positive statement. For example, instead of saying “I will quit snacking at night”, say “I will practice healthy eating habits”. You should also write down your goal. Committing it to paper helps you to commit. It can also help if you tell your goal to someone you trust, just like I did last week, I told a friend that am now eating the ketogenic way, unlike others, she choose to encourage me and that motivated me more.
2. Decide on a replacement behaviour. If your goal is to develop a new habit then your replacement behaviour will be the goal itself. This step is very important when you are trying to break a habit. If you want to stop a behaviour, you must have a superior behaviour to put in its place. If you don’t, the old behaviour pattern will always return and you can never fight it.
3. Learn and be aware of your triggers. Behaviour patterns don’t exist independently. Often, one habit is associated with another part of your regular routine. For instance, in the snacking example, the trigger may be late night television or reading. You automatically grab a bag of chips while you watch. Many people who smoke automatically light up after eating. Think about when and why you do the thing you want to quit.
4. Post reminders to yourself. You can do this by leaving yourself notes in the places where the behaviour usually occurs. Or you can leave yourself a message on the mirror, refrigerator, computer monitor or some other place where you will see it regularly. You can also have a family member or co-worker use a particular phrase to remind you of your goal, this method works so well.
5. Get help and support from someone. This is kind of obvious, any job is easier with some form of help. It works even better if you can form a partnership with someone who shares the same goal to always encourage each other when any one of you are trying to go off track.
6. Write daily affirmations. Write your phrase or sentence in the present tense (as if it were already happening), and write it ten times a day for twenty-one days. This process helps make your goal a part of your subconscious, which will not only remind you to practice the new behaviour, but it also keeps you focused and motivated, not easy to do but always worth it.
7. Reward yourself for making progress at set time intervals. Focus on your goal one day at a time, but give yourself a small treat at one, three and six months. The rewards don’t have to be big or expensive, and you should try to make it something that’s associated in some way with the goal. Doing this provides you with both incentive and extra motivation.
Following these steps is no guarantee of success of course. Depending on the habit it may take several tries to finally make the change. But if you stick with it, you can do it. Good Luck to you as you take that bold step of change.
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BrendasCouch.com
October 7, 2016 at 12:09 amTo think of it, i haven't really had any bad habit, maybe I think i will say My bad habit is time..when i say give me ten minutes, you may watch a one hour movie waiting for me… and when i am watching an interesting film and cooking at the same time, be very sure it will get burn.
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Rina Doria
October 7, 2016 at 1:29 amChange can be so difficult for everyone. It's such a good idea to set goals and make a plan to help you reach them, makes it so much more attainable that way!
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Simera H
October 7, 2016 at 2:28 amThese are really useful tips. I love the tip about triggers.
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October 7, 2016 at 2:56 amGood tips. I think setting a replacement is important.
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October 7, 2016 at 2:57 amI like setting realistic goals and rewarding myself when I accomplish them, Great little guideline, It sounds so simple following these tips 🙂
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Laura Mitbrodt
October 7, 2016 at 4:48 amThese are all great tips, thanks for sharing
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Yiotou_La
October 7, 2016 at 5:05 amRewarding is so important when we achieve something, I used to think 'if I do this, then I am allowed to buy this' so it was a great motivation to do something and achieve my goals. Lovely post,thank you!
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October 7, 2016 at 7:47 amgreat post! i hope you're having a wonderful day!
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October 7, 2016 at 8:19 amReally good tips. I love your post, it's really useful and give inspiration. 🙂
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TinyTiff
October 7, 2016 at 9:02 amHi! Beautiful tips! Thank you as always for sharing! Have a wonderful weekend filled with blessings
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Ankita Bardhan
October 7, 2016 at 9:46 amThese tips came in right time, I need to break out of my few lazy habits. Thank you for sharing these tips, can certainly use them 🙂
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October 7, 2016 at 11:07 amGreat post and tips. Thanks for sharing them. Gemma x
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Paola Lauretano
October 7, 2016 at 11:11 amChange is very difficult, but your post is very helpful!
Great job babe!
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Chineze Anigbogu
October 7, 2016 at 11:14 amI agree very much with deciding on replacement behaviour. I find that when I know what I want to do instead of what I am currently doing I transition more effectively. Fab pieces of advice. Thanks.
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Anett B
October 7, 2016 at 12:10 pmThis is such a useful post, thanks! Great tips!
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James Benita
October 7, 2016 at 12:54 pmReally helpful post. Love the 7th tips. Thanks for sharing Tessy.
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Angel Pinkoolaid
October 7, 2016 at 2:35 pmI have a really terrible spending habit <3 I need to break it before my finances suffer. Will give these a try 🙂
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Chanel From Je M'appelle
October 7, 2016 at 2:40 pmThanks for sharing! I used to have a bad habit of speaking to myself negatively, but I've tried to break it.
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Sophie Atieno
October 7, 2016 at 5:21 pmGreat tips Tessy. Very insightful. They would surely work.
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Gingi Freeman
October 7, 2016 at 5:50 pmDaily affirmations and reminders (usually pop ups on my phone) are the best for me to form habits… great post dear! <3 – http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com
Gingi Freeman
October 7, 2016 at 5:50 pmDaily affirmations and reminders (usually pop ups on my phone) are the best for me to form habits… great post dear! <3 – http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com
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The Velvet Runway
October 7, 2016 at 6:27 pmGreat tips! Thanks for sharing these – I have a terrible snacking habit and I think my trigger is boredom so I need to find a replacement habit!
Julia x
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Dressed With Soul
October 7, 2016 at 9:09 pmThanks for sharing these very good tips!
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Harija
October 8, 2016 at 3:09 amGreat and interesting post.
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Lily Kanaya Widjaja
October 8, 2016 at 6:18 am"Reward yourself for making progress at set time intervals" : this is may favorite 🙂
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October 8, 2016 at 9:12 amSuch a great post! You've left me feeling inspired to make some changes! xx
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Alice Diner
October 8, 2016 at 9:52 amLove love love this post, time to makes some changes i think xx
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Anouk
October 8, 2016 at 12:21 pmI fully agree with what you're saying. Goal setting is a must if you want to get anywhere in life.
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Hristina Kovačević
October 8, 2016 at 6:12 pmGreat tips! I have so many bad habbits so i can use your advices, thank you!
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Carina Ž
October 8, 2016 at 6:42 pmNice tips!
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Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:05 pmAww! I trust you will work on it. Thanks babes.
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:05 pmThank you dear, sure..
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:06 pmSo true! Thank you love.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:06 pmThank you Simera dear.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:07 pmSure.. Thank you.
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:07 pmYaay!So good to know. Thank you
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:07 pmThank you for reading!
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:08 pmGreat! Thank you sweetie.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:08 pmThank you.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:08 pmThank you! You bet!
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:09 pmOh wow! Thank you.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:09 pmThanks for reading!
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:10 pmGreat..Thank you too.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:10 pmThanks Gemma!
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October 8, 2016 at 10:11 pmThank you pretty!
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October 8, 2016 at 10:17 pmThank you Chi, so glad to hear this.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:18 pmAww! Thank you Annett.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:18 pmThank you dearie.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:19 pmOh wow!Am sorry pretty, just try your best to manage it properly hun.
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:21 pmGreat you have done away with it. Kudos babe.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:24 pmThank you Sophie
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October 8, 2016 at 10:27 pmThank you!!!
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October 8, 2016 at 10:28 pmThank you!
Tessy Onyia
October 8, 2016 at 10:29 pmGreat! Glad you know your weak point and I trust you will surely work on it. Love you babe.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:30 pmThank you ma.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:32 pmThan you dear.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:35 pmThank You Lily.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:36 pmAww! Oh wow! you just want to make me cry. Thank you love.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:36 pmWow! Thank you so much.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:37 pmThank you dearie, so true.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:37 pmOh wow! Thank you love.
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October 8, 2016 at 10:37 pmThank you Carina.
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October 9, 2016 at 12:21 pmGreat tips! Daily Affirmations are always a plus for me.
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Darriyan Cateland
October 9, 2016 at 5:19 pmGreat tips, thanks for sharing! Hope youve had a good weekend!
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Holly Olivia
October 9, 2016 at 8:43 pmI love this post so much! I will definitely be following your advice! x
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Andreea Birsan
October 9, 2016 at 10:05 pmBreaking bad habits is really hard to do! Thanks for sharing all your lovely tips. x
Have a nice week,
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Tessy Onyia
October 10, 2016 at 3:12 amThank you.
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October 10, 2016 at 3:16 amThank you pretty.
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October 10, 2016 at 3:19 amYaay! Thank you.
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October 10, 2016 at 3:28 amThank you Andreea.
Nwamaka Ajaegbu
October 10, 2016 at 4:00 pmThis such a great post. Every tip is useful.
Whatever it is you want to stop doing, replacing it with something positive works too. The time you would have used for the former, do for the later. And you'd get over the bad habit in no time.
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October 10, 2016 at 11:17 pmGreat post, thanks for sharing! 🙂
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Naomi Vangestel
October 11, 2016 at 8:17 amDefinitely agree! I have a few habits I'm trying to change and while they're all completely different from each other, I think working on them step by step helps.
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Sauniya
October 11, 2016 at 3:59 pmLike they, it's better to build the new than try to fight the old.
your tips are great Tessy.
thank you for sharing them 🙂
xo
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Jeanelly Concepcion
October 11, 2016 at 6:58 pmThis is a great post! Thanks for sharing!
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October 19, 2016 at 10:52 amI loved the post!! Thanks for sharing!
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Rich Tweten
October 28, 2016 at 12:14 amHabits can either make us or break us! Tessy, I love the golden tips you share in this article. It's critical to replace one habit with another. You can't expect to stop gravitating towards an unhealthy action if there is no healthy action in exchange. Here is an effective article on weight loss management that will teach you how to lose a bad habit which can negatively affect your fat loss results. A great read!
Alessia
October 28, 2016 at 8:41 amThank you for this interesting post! It's very difficult to change the habits, I will definitely try to follow these steps!
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