In a child’s education, an important factor is the parents’ expertise for this “job”. No one is born holding all the knowledge, but we can learn and understand some things from books or advice from qualified persons.
Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the following:
- Do not underestimate your child – he can understand more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of him this might affect his development.
- Don’t use threat – a child loves a challenge and once threatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn’t supposed to just to see if he can escape the punishment.
- Do not bribe your child – If you are trying to get him to learn for money, for example, he will fail to understand the importance of learning, all he will get from this is the importance of money.
- Do not make a small child promise something – small children can’t hold promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they did that.
- Do not keep them on a short leash – to grow up normally children needs some space, some freedom.
- Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child – keep your ideas simple and concise so he can understand everything you have to say.
- Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience – The child has to learn to think of his own at some point.
- Do not indulge him too much – he or she can develop compartmental disorders.
- Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game – the trick for a game to become educative is to have its initial rules respected.
- Don’t impose rules that don’t go with the age of your child.
- Do not try to inflict guilt – guilt is not an appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are little.
- Don’t give your child orders that you don’t take seriously – your child will try to please you and giving him an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that order is a joke.
All these “commandments” are addressed first to the parent. But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him or her all the things he needs to properly develop emotionally and physically.